TNET

Transgender/Nonbinary Education & Trainings
serving Albuquerque, NM and beyond

by Stacy Fatemi & Charlie Alexander

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Stacy Fatemi 🔊 (they/them) is a nonbinary trans educator of color from Albuquerque, New Mexico. After coming out as trans at the age of 17, Stacy began casually educating others to address a gap in gender knowledge that affected their everyday life. Now, at age 27, they are passionate about educating people on gender-neutral language, physical transition-related topics, and equitable access for trans athletes.

Before TNET came to be, Stacy did trainings as the first Education & Outreach Program Manager for the Transgender Resource Center of New Mexico, and made educational works for the Health Equity Alliance for LGBTQ+ New Mexicans. They're also the author of Pronouns: What's the Big Deal?, an 8-page booklet that details the ins and outs of basic linguistic respect towards trans and nonbinary folks. When not at work, Stacy can be found making metal, punk, and ambient music with their longtime friend, the 6-string bass guitar.

TNET LLC

Transgender/Nonbinary Education & Trainings
Albuquerque, NM, USA

Phone: +1 (505) 219-1949
Email: contact@transeducation.net
Instagram: @tnet.trainings

Stacy Fatemi

Email: stacy@transeducation.net

Charlie Alexander

Email: charlie@transeducation.net

Or not really so much "not found" as "I intentionally made a link redirect here because making it go to the right place is a little too much work right now." (Sorry. I'll get around to it soon.) -Stacy

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Here are some helpful guidelines regarding our name:

Here are some marketing descriptions for us, and for each of our trainings:

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

TNET’s #101: Transgender Cultural Fluency training is the tried-and-true workhorse of trans education! Dynamically co-presented by Stacy Fatemi (they/them) and Charlie Alexander (they/them), this presentation is one from which even old pros can learn a thing or two. We'll cover everything you need to know from the ground up, including who trans people are, why it’s important to know about them, and how we can all be better advocates. This 101 is an excellent go-to for any human who interacts with other humans. Let’s build up to greater levels of education together!

#123: School Best Practices for Trans & Nonbinary Students

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#178: Gender Outside the Binary

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#234: Busting the Binary in the English Language

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#249: Gender Exploration with Young People

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#M01: Preparing Patients for Life After Vaginoplasty

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One of our principal values at TNET is that of accessibility. That is, we believe our content and the education we provide should have as few barriers to access as possible. Here are some of the ways we try to improve accessibility:

We are always willing to do better. If there is something that would make our content more accessible to you, please let us know!

(Did you mean to go to tnet.store/afterhours?)

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TNET After Hours is the 18+ section of the TNET Store. We created it to be able to showcase products that are erotic in nature, because we believe that eroticism should be celebrated!

The current climate around nudity and bodies on social media shows a great deal of censorship towards only certain types of bodies. Historically, queerness has been portrayed as being purely sexual as a way of discrediting and demonizing queer people. We do not believe that bodies are inherently sexual, or that nudity = sex; to believe so is to fetishize. How often are trans people—specifically transfeminine people—fetishized and seen as inherently sexual, not only in porn but in consumers of other kinds of sex work? Fuck that!

We don't think that anything is wrong with being sexual, or with being a sex worker. We also want to normalize trans bodies in all of their shapes and sizes, because trans people are all unique, and there's no one way to look or be trans. (Plus, we're hot. Deal with it.)

We have bathroom signs for sale on the TNET Store as a way of promoting safety for trans people in public restrooms. Restrooms are often avoided by trans people because of how highly gendered and policed they are. In fact, many pieces of legislation have sought to ban trans people from using the bathrooms that align most with their gender. Even outside of legislation, trans people are often harassed and questioned for existing in gendered restrooms, to the point where 8% of trans people in 2015 reported experiencing urinary tract infections or kidney-related issues specifically related to avoiding public restrooms.

When you see someone in the bathroom and you think "hm, I think that person is trans," ask yourself "why? Why did I think that?" And then ask yourself "why does it matter, anyway?" Because, truly, it doesn't. The only way to know someone is trans is if they tell you, after all—and someone's transness shouldn't have any impact on the other people in any bathroom that they might be in.

The truth is, you use restrooms with trans people all the time. We make up around 5% of the population, by many estimates. It would be a statistical wonder to never have shared a bathroom with a trans person before! The only difference between those times and the time that you're questioning it is how that person looked and your preconceived notions about how people in that bathroom should look. But really, people can (and do!) look any way in any kind of bathroom. It's your responsibility to be questioning why you had any discomfort or any sort of problem with that, and the best way to quell that is to increase your education on the matter and to get to know more trans people, naturally, over the course of your life.

Trans people have bodily functions. Sometimes, we have to pee. Let us pee, and let us pee safely!

Here's how my name, Stacy Fatemi, is pronounced:

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If that audio file doesn't work for you, here are some ways you might be able to figure out how to pronounce it.

Here's how my name, Charlie Alexander, is pronounced:

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In the International Phonetic Alphabet, my pronunciation of "Charlie Alexander" would be written [ˈt͡ʃɑːɹɫi ˌæɫɪɡˈzæːndɚ].